Monday, July 23, 2007
What makes them think.....
So...I was in the gym this afternoon forcing myself to put in my "weight training" time. Where I really want to be is at Krispy Creme Donuts, eating one(or three) of those creme filled glazed donuts. None the less, I am pushing through and working out and sweating like no ones business. And I am not one of those girls that when they sweat they just look like they have this natural glow. I have sweat pouring down my face and I am beaming red, and I could not have smelled pleasant at this point. It was definitely not my most glamorous moment. For whatever reason, this guy decides to leave his pack of friends that he was comparing muscles with and walk over to me. Do I for one second think it was to make use of the empty bike that was beside me? Umm, NO. He begins to make this uncomfortable small talk with me. I made my best effort to be polite, instead of saying what I thought, which was, "why the hell are you bothering me?". He begins to spit out these lines that made me cringe. "So, what is your sign?","What kind of things are you interested in?", "So, what are you doing this weekend?". The entire time I was thinking to myself,...You have got to be kidding me! I made me way out of the building with out screaming or punching him in his face, but felt great concern for this guy and those guys that are like him. Are all men like this man? What makes them think that they are such a gift that we(women) would want to be bothered by them, or picked up by them? What makes them think that it is okay to intrude upon our time? What makes them think that they are so great that if they show interest in us (genuine or not), we would automatically be interested in them in return? Does a man stop and think to himself... maybe she has a man, maybe I am not her type, or she might just be here to work out and not to be picked up on????????? Or does a man assume that he is god's gift to women and that if he gives us the time of day, we should fall to his feet in aww?
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I find your story amusing. But I wonder what a guy is supposed to do. Maybe if we got right to the point, "Would you like to go out for coffee sometime?", but then we run the risk of being accused of being too direct.
It would be helpful if you wrote about what would be a good approach for men to get to know you and ask you out.
I love the fact that you are blogging :)
Well, I have to say that if a guy that I do not know is going to approach me for a date or my number I would prefer that they be direct and ask the question, rather than have to deal with those obnoxious lines and hinting around. It is uncomfortable and only makes the guy look bad right off the bat. However, I can not think of a situation where I would be okay with agreeing to go on a date with or give my number to a guy that I do not know. I guess it would depend on the situation, as well as the way that guy presents himself. If it were a perfect world, there would be opportunity for a guy who is interested in me to get to know me in a casual setting where we can become familiar with eachother before he approaches me with his interest.
This is a hard question for me because I am soooo NOT in a place where I want to be approached by anyone, especially not some creepy, try'n to spit game, gym crawler. Is that too harsh???
lol
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